Oysters And Pearls
Posted on 11:22 pm, Wednesday, 26 March, 2008 by Scotty StevensA few years ago, when at a network marketing seminar, one of the speakers, Chris Mason-Paull, I believe – a successful MLM business owner – put forth a people-sorting analogy that has remained with me ever since. It illustrated how, when building a business built on people, the onus is on you to 'go through as many oysters' as you can, as quick as you can, in order to find the ones with the 'pearls', quicker.
It was a great analogy, and it stuck with me, albeit unconsciously. It wasn't until years later that it resurfaced when I was philosophising upon relationships, and the art of finding the right person to settle down with. I reworked the oysters and pearls 'concept' into my own theory. I've mentioned it before, but for the sake of this article, I will explain it once again. My aim of this discourse is to go further into depth. First, here's my theory…
You see, when it comes to relationships, there are two kinds of people in this world: 'weepers' and 'seekers'. Now, before I explain that, let's first pretend that all the millions of potential partners in this world are oysters. And that only a few of them contain a pearl.
Firstly, what the 'weepers' do is they grab the first oyster that comes their way and they open it up, hoping it contains a pearl, and, realising it doesn't, they close the oyster, and say, "Oh well, if I love it and caress it, and do everything I can for it, then surely, a pearl will appear". So they kiss it, caress it, put it on a pedestal, do everything for it, and then open it again, hoping a pearl has appeared. But still no pearl.
So they close it again, they kiss it, caress it, put it on a pedestal, do everything for it, and then open it, once again hoping a pearl has appeared. Still no pearl. Eventually, the oyster gets bored from all the pressure and waiting around, and the weeper ends up losing the oyster, and then they cry, lamenting that they hate oysters, that they’re all the same and how they'll never find the right oyster for them. With me?
Now, the 'seekers', they understand that there are millions of oysters out there, they realise that only a few contain a pearl, and they reason that, by logic, they'll have to go through a lot of oysters before they find one with a pearl. So they find an oyster, have some fun, realise there’s no pearl, put it down again, and move on to the next oyster. Have some fun, open it up, realise there’s no pearl, put it down, then move on to the next oyster. But they know that with each oyster they find that doesn’t contain a pearl, it brings them closer to one that does.
And with each oyster they find, they learn more about life, and they become better at understanding oysters, so that they can ultimately spend less and less time with each oyster they find before realising it doesn't contain a pearl. And when they do eventually find an oyster with a pearl, they'll know exactly what to do to keep hold of it. I’m a seeker. My question to you is, are you a weeper or a seeker?
My main reason for my writing this article is that, at times, even after explaining my excellent theory, some people will still hit me with the same question, "What if you find the oyster with a pearl, now, before having gone through many oysters?" Their point, when they ask me this, is that could I really be as harsh as to turn away someone that could potentially be right for me - the love of my life - if I wasn't supposedly, ready?
But the art of choosing the right person involves a lot more than the heart. If you have your values set, you'll naturally fall in love with someone that lives by those same values. If you've fallen in love with someone whose values are conflicting with your own, you need to examine your values.
I've gone into this before in my article, "Is It Right To Play The Field". But, I'd like to be a little more specific by breaking it down, further. So, in answering the question of why I wouldn't settle for a pearl if I found one early, allow me to sum it up in the following points…
1) Every human has a value and he should spend his life constantly increasing his value, because the higher his value, the better value he attracts into his life. This is what it means to be a humanpreneur.
2) I love women. I love the way they walk; I love the way they talk; I love the way they laugh; I love the way they smell; I love the way they feel; I love the way they taste. I love their anatomy; I love that I'm physically stronger than they are; I love that they expect me to lead and to be dominant and I embrace their femininity - I just love women. And in the same way that I love to travel, I want to go to as many places on earth as possible; in the same way that I love food, I want to taste as many different dishes as I can; in the same way that I love adventure, I want to try as many crazy things as I am able - so I want to experience as many different women as I can before I settle with one, and…
3) Finally, because value attracts value, the more I increase my value in life, the higher value woman I'll always want and naturally attract. And the more you increase your value, conversely, the fewer oysters you find with pearls in, since you become more discriminating in your search for that extra special oyster - which is therefore harder to find. But when I'm nearer the man I am striving to become, and I know exactly what I want in a woman, I'll be ready to attract her and keep her for good.
As I said, these points are based on my own situation, so point number two is subjective. But, points one and three should be objective laws to live by. For you, you may find someone like yourself early on, someone who is also a humanpreneur, striving to increase their value. It may turn out you are both on the same path, you are compatible, and therefore can grow together.
Whatever you do, put yourself, first. The partner you attract will only be as 'quality' as you. Make yourself 'top quality'. Remember my motto, 'Mecum et incipio et finio', translated from Latin to, 'I both begin and end with myself'. Words to live by.
To freedom,
Scotty Stevens
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